Perhaps reframe it as he installed monitoring software on his kid’s devices to stop them from looking at websites he doesn’t want them to, and in exchange he installed the same software on his own computer except it pings his own son every time he looks at porn.
It’s not disqualifying, maybe, but it’s super weird.
the Louisiana representative talked about how he installed “accountability software” called Covenant Eyes on his devices in order to abstain from internet porn and other unsavory websites
Ok if it is not bad what is your gut reaction to this:
“Hey Dad, it is me, your son. I got a message that you are watching porn right now, please stop sinning!”
Also do you really think it was his son’s idea to do this, that this was an actual mutual decision where the power difference between an authoritarian father and a son compared with threats of going to hell did not hinder him to say “I don’t want this.”?
If two adults decide to help each other this way fine, but this is solely to shame the son and to control him and to have control over his sexuality, but what it actually does is making porn “the forbidden fruit” AND most likely has the son either circumventing the software or having a second device or watching porn together with his best friend, who has a not controlled phone, jerking off together. Not that that would be bad.
Overly controlling parents do only one thing: Raising children that are good at hiding and lying and probably will feel guilty their whole lives, for completely normal feelings and normal things they do. It is messed up and even more messed up to involve your children into you own shortcomings, if the father really needs his porn addiction monitored.
What you’re missing, I think, is that, provided the opportunity, his, belief system would tell him that monitoring our porn intake would also be a good idea. Maybe mandatory software on all our phones to help us all become better Christians.
Honestly I don’t really have a problem with this.
If they believe it’s bad for them then they are just taking steps to help with the habit.
It doesn’t hurt anyone.
That’s just fucking weird, man.
It really isn’t.
Grown men relying on their teen son’s supervision to quell their own porn urges is super creepy and shows a complete lack of adult self control.
This is not normal and is in fact extremely weird.
As well as wildly inappropriate putting the son in that position. Man, that kid is going end up really fucked up.
Who told you it isn’t weird? Your dad??
It hurts his son who he has now traumatized into believing that sex is inherently evil. It’s not harmless, it’s sick—it’s abuse.
And traumatized by being made responsible for his father’s sexuality. Wtf.
absolutely. that kind of sexual abuse is normalized in authoritarian religious communities.
Perhaps reframe it as he installed monitoring software on his kid’s devices to stop them from looking at websites he doesn’t want them to, and in exchange he installed the same software on his own computer except it pings his own son every time he looks at porn.
It’s not disqualifying, maybe, but it’s super weird.
Found Mikes account
Do you want to know what type of porn your dad watches?
Ok if it is not bad what is your gut reaction to this:
“Hey Dad, it is me, your son. I got a message that you are watching porn right now, please stop sinning!”
Also do you really think it was his son’s idea to do this, that this was an actual mutual decision where the power difference between an authoritarian father and a son compared with threats of going to hell did not hinder him to say “I don’t want this.”?
If two adults decide to help each other this way fine, but this is solely to shame the son and to control him and to have control over his sexuality, but what it actually does is making porn “the forbidden fruit” AND most likely has the son either circumventing the software or having a second device or watching porn together with his best friend, who has a not controlled phone, jerking off together. Not that that would be bad.
Overly controlling parents do only one thing: Raising children that are good at hiding and lying and probably will feel guilty their whole lives, for completely normal feelings and normal things they do. It is messed up and even more messed up to involve your children into you own shortcomings, if the father really needs his porn addiction monitored.
You’re a big fan of sharing what kind of porn you watch with underage children, huh.
If it’s for a porn addiction or something, sure. It doesn’t sound like that’s the case, though.
What you’re missing, I think, is that, provided the opportunity, his, belief system would tell him that monitoring our porn intake would also be a good idea. Maybe mandatory software on all our phones to help us all become better Christians.