The more self-sufficient you can be, the fewer societal resources you will take up, which could then go to someone else in greater need. That’s my perspective at least.

But the more self-sufficient you are, the more resources of yourself you need to supply yourself. So you can provide less societal resources. If you do not need to provide clothes for yourself, you have more time caring for elderly, etc.

As another view, the total resources need does not directly change by changing who does what. The advantages of helping each other are in the OP. At some point however, I would think, the overhead of organization grows so large that it may not be worth it anymore. Just think of the amount of work put into “useless” administration in many countries. But in a 30 person village, this is probably negligible.

Edit: Thanks for helping other people on the feet!

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Good description, but I would say even the parallel and seemingly rational analysis can be very one sided. I noticed on myself that in similar situations my “rational” analysis swings in the same direction as my mood. And if it doesn’t, I sometimes do not believe, or more precisely, do not feel it. So it doesn’t really help quite a lot. This doesn’t make it useless, just a side note to not be to harsh on yourself if it doesn’t work.

Another thing which also helps me in such situations, is to remember these are just feelings. Sometimes you just feel worthless or dumb, but this are just your feelings, not you. And just because you feel this way, it doesn’t need to be true. Acknowledge the feeling, but try to still notice it is just a feeling.

Ja das stimmt, da hab ich aus der Physik kommend zu anwendendunsorient gedacht.
Aber für die Frage ob komplexe zahlen gebraucht werden, reicht es, eine isomorphe alternative zu haben. Die komplexen Zahlen haben auch nicht mehr mit Quantenmechanik zu tun wie die Matrizen, nur sind sie leichter handzuhaben.

Die gesamten 2x2 R Matrizen nicht, aber es gibt eine Untermenge die ein Körper ist und isomorph zu C. Nämlich alle die sich durch Linearkombination der Einheitsmatrix und der Rotationsmatrix um 90° ergeben.
Also a+ib ~ [[a, -b],[b,a]]
https://math.stackexchange.com/questions/1028371/complex-number-isomorphic-to-certain-2-times-2-matrices#2644514

But also learn to feel your feelings by yourself.

I agree completely with this stance

If you need to talk a lot about your feelings, especially the deep stuff, talk to a therapist. That’s not brushing you off, it’s what therapy is for.

While I agree that therapy can help a lot in those situations, I don’t think these talks should be limited to a therapist. I try to be somebody you can come to and talk about deep stuff for my friends. With one friend of mine, I mostly talk about deep feelings. It is great to have somebody like her, it’s a different category than therapy. A therapist shouldn’t give you his opinion and rarely shares similar experiences. Sometimes it’s just nice to have someone to talk to in a more symmetric way. For me it’s almost never a burden to listen to the emotions of people I like. I want to hear the deep stuff.
Sure a friend is not a replacement for therapy, but therapy is also not a replacement for a friend with whom you talk about deep emotions.

This hits me hard. I am a cis male and currently trying to get rid of something like toxic masculinity, but as you say it is deeply rooted.

I acually never strived for the stereotypical man image, I wanted to have an emotional side. Now i know i always just considered “having am emotional side” just as another kind of requirement to be a good man. So i tried listening to others and beeing open myself, talking about emotional things. But only those, that i thougt were accepted. I never talked about my real worries. They always seemed to ridiculous to me. A good emotially healthy man shouldn’t have them or solve them himself. Now it feels pretty dumb in retrospect, but I am no longer letting this feeling stop me from talking about something. In some way I also have the feeling i betrayed other people with a fake personality.

I know this is not the mistake of feminism. I cannot really say what went wrong to land in this position. I do not even know why i tell this now. In some way, I just want to tell my story and hope someone can relate with it. Secondly i want to say, that the following is not obvious for everyone, at least it was not for me: Beeing emotional is not just some requirement for you, it’s also about having an opportunity to get support for your worries.

I just want to say, i loved Dragon’s Egg for this level of detail to the physics. I even did some quick calculations why you want 6 compensator masses not less to reduce the effect of tidal forces. Or the black holes inside the sun, at first i thougt, this is impossible. Then i read some more on it an noticed its well researched.

Dann sind aber die Effekte durch Windräder und Katzen auch nicht vergleichbar, die treffen nämlich sehr unterschiedliche Arten.

Insofern ist der Vergleich mit Hühnern auch nicht schlechter als so.

Ich hab den Hinweis auf diese Studie in Wikipedia gelesen, wonach steht:

Soweit ich mich damit beschäftigt hab ist es nicht so klar wie ein kleines problem es wirklich ist. Deswegen ist es gut wenn weiter an diesen punkten geforscht wird. Ich stimme gern zu, dass das problem wesentlich übertrieben wird in der Gesellschaft. Und dass es den Ausbau der Windkraft nicht verlangsamen darf.

Der Vergleich hinkt. Die unterschiedlichen Ursachen treffen verschiedene Vogelarten deutlich anders. Für gewisse Arten (zb Rotmilan) macht Windkraft derzeit einige Prozent der durch Menschen verursachten Tode aus. Das ist derzeit noch kein großes Problem, wird allerdings die Windkraft hoffentlich stark ausgebaut, so ist es nicht mehr zu vernachlässigen. Damit sollte man sich auch jetzt schon Gedanken machen, wie das Problem verhindert werden kann.

Natürlich heißt dass nicht dass deswegen der Windradausbau stark eingeschränkt werden soll Auch sollte nicht dieser Ursache des Sterbens mehr Aufmerksamkeit geschenkt wird wie den anderen Ursachen, was derzeit passiert. Aber nur die Summe der Vögel zu vergleichen macht meiner Meinung nach wenig Sinn, da diese sehr unterschiedliche Lebensweisen, Häufigkeiten und Gefährdungen haben.

Yes colors have a meaning. However, they change ober time and culture. So why not use the word which describes exactly what we mean?

I agree, nowadays blacklist/whitelist has practically nothing to do with skin color. However i do think it is weird to use the same words for describing the appearance of people and good/bad.

Well i would be indifferent to the renaming to primary, because it doesn’t really matter to me what they call their branches, as long as it is descriptive. primary also conveys the meaning. I would probably continue using main/dev because i see no reason to change.
I am not someone who says “You should change this!”. I just say, think of it, there are some reasons to change and the only reason to keep it, os that we did it always like this. I think there are reasons for selecting better words. And I am only annoyed by people who are outraged by things others do, which does not really affects them negatively. I get it that someone wants to continue using blacklist, master, etc. and I am ok with that.

Even ignoring the question of racism, they are still stupid names.

Imagine teaching a child about this and it asks: Why is white allowed and black not? The only answer is, because it is like this for a long time. If we name them allowlist and denylist, it is obvious to all English speaking people. Shouldn’t we strive for descriptive names in programming?

However, if you use names whitelist an blacklist, you need to make the implicit connection white-positive black-negative. Yes obviously this does not make you racist if you do this in programming. But is it good?

Yes that is the point. They made the choice to change their default. You can still make the choice to name your branches, especially the main one, as you like. Setting it for a project is less work than complaining about it.

I cannot recommend mindfulness enough, as already suggested by many others in this thread.

I think, you said you are already in therapy? In this case, I would definitely talk with your therapist about this and things you want to adopt beforehand. If you want a simple concrete tip, you could try the “mindfulness coach” by the US department of veteran affairs. I liked it a lot and the apps from there get good privacy recommendations from mozilla.

I am a bit suprised by the many people recommending to just stop giving fucks. Is this what you really want? Or do you just want avoid the emotions of taking control?

A calorie is not a metric unit but the joule is, 1 calorie is approximately 4.2 joule. A gram of hydrogen does not exactly have 1 mole of particles. The historical definition for the mole was the count of atoms in 12 grams of the ¹²C carbon isotope, which is slightly different.

Thsi reminds me of this site where you can overlay the borders of any country anywhere on earth and see how it compares. https://www.thetruesize.com/

I recently started reading the discworld series by Terry Prattchet and I’m really enjoying it. It has just so absurd humor.

Your book reminded me of “Harry Potter and the methods of Rationality”, which i read a few years ago. The setup is lously based on Harry Potter, however Harry tries to take a scientific and rational view on magic. It is one of my favourite books.

Don't be so pessimistic about it, i thought as you do. However, if you meet a person fitting to you, it is of no importance that you have no experience. I had my first date recently, probably ten years later than most. While i was embarrassed, it was no problem for her and she was very considerate to me.