Not every state. This is Texas. I'm in California and my kid went to school with shoulder length hair that was half blue. My relatives in Texas kept asking what the school was doing about it. There's nothing on the books about hair and the principal said it looked cool. Hair has always been a control issue in bible thumping communities, which I thankfully am no longer around.

From my experience:

Gently let your husband know that if his mom says something negative that he should not pass it along to you. What his mom said did not hurt you until he told you. That's how I taught my kid not to spread gossip.

As for your mother in law, if she comments that something is messy, hand her a broom. That's how I got my certified-clean-freak mom to stop making comments. "Vacuum's in the closet" was another one, but she was my mom, not my MIL, so it wasn't as hard for me. Sooo…have your husband do it. :)

Also non-cartel coyotes rest during the day. I lived in Nevada where coyotes are a given, but never in my life saw one during the day.

My kid is learning to drive and I wanted to rent/get ahold of a manual to teach that too, but nothing doing. You can’t find one to rent and I’m not buying a whole car for a few weeks’ training.

Por que no los dos?

Hormonal fluctuations have been shown to affect symptoms. You* can talk to your doctor about a small bump up in meds for when you are most affected. I can’t remember if it’s just before a period or during that symptoms get worse. I recommend tracking your period and making notes of when it’s worse for you. Menopause is crazy for many reasons, but defo for ADHD.

*Anyone who has a period.

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That’s a good one.

My guess is pink cobaltoan calcite with malachite.

I used google lens & google image search.

Here’s a similar image:

I think you forgot what you were writing when you wrote it, lol.

I know I do.

Warning: wall of text incoming

Schedules, bah!

I make GLORIOUS schedules. I don’t use them. The more time I spend making a schedule, the less time I will use it.

Calendars Yes, I did have invisible calendars too, but I finally found something that works for me!

I used to not use calendars until it hit me that my grandmother’s calendar was how she always remembered people’s birthdays. I mean, duh. So I started using a calendar. I tried digital–failure. I tried desk calendars–failure. I tried small calendar books for purses and spiral-bound planner calendars–failure. I tried normal calendars with too small boxes for each day–failure.

After years I started doing this:

• I go to Barnes and Noble in August. That’s when they have their largest selection of calendars. Find one you like, but my preference is to have big squares for every day.

  Here’s what mine looks like:

  

  When it folds open, half a month is on each side instead of having the top half be a picture of something. It comes with stickers and junk, but I don’t use them.

• Go to August and mark “Buy next year’s calendar”. The calendar doesn’t run out in August, but the supply of good calendars does.

• Put the calendar where you will see it multiple times per day. The Dutch are known to keep their calendars in the bathroom. That works. I’m American and I keep mine next to the fridge, because…well, I’ll see it many times per day. Shut up.

• Find a way to have a pencil or pen near the calendar at all times–clip, string, whatever.

• Mark everyone’s birthday. If a birthday falls within the first three days of the next month, mark it a week in advance so you don’t miss getting a card out in time (if you do cards).

• If you need to put something on the calendar and you aren’t near it, send yourself a text to do it. When you’re home and see the text, you know what to do. “Was man schreibt, bleibt” is a German saying that roughly translates to “what you write down, you remember.” The act of writing it down does help. Digital calendars on my phone aren’t helpful to me. If I need to know what my calendar looks like when I’m not home, I just take a pic of the month I need on my phone’s camera.

• When you get a new calendar, take your old calendar and mark everyone’s birthdays and other annual things you’d like to remember, like “sign up for summer camp” in March. Of course throughout the year, if something sounds cool or you forgot something you want to do in the future, make a note in the margins and mark the new calendar appropriately.

• Tell anyone who shares your household to use the calendar too, so you can remember if they’re going to an event (so you won’t schedule something then) and also, when they get used to it, maybe they can help you remember too (“Hey, are we taking X out for her birthday?” or “Do you have everything you need for Y?”)

• Sometimes I highlight a box if it’s really important or lasts a whole week (like a summer camp), but that’s something I tend to switch up every year.

Good luck. If you need me, I’ll be reading everyone else’s tips, ha ha.

Hell yeah!

Anxiety and/or depression goes hand in hand with ADHD. I’ve had chronic depression since I was a kid. Wasn’t diagnosed until I was an adult seeking my own treatment and wasn’t dignosed with ADHD until late middle age. It sounds dystopian to suggest even a rudimentary checking in for everybody to screen for neurodivergence and mood disorders in high school, but we get screened for scoliosis and vision already, at least where I am. I’m not saying diagnosis should be done by any school-visiting medical group, but recommendations for further testing if a possibilty is there–all under HIPAA for privacy of course (if you aren’t in the US, it’s a law prohibiting medical personnel from disclosing private medical history).

Anyway, I think earlier diagnosis would’ve helped us all.

My mom. Super skinny her whole life. People thought she took care of herself, but I knew that she forgot to eat for days.

I used to think that would be nice. I have the other end of it where I am constantly nibbling for dopamine hits.

I never manage to do it more than about 3 weeks before my brain just completely shuts off that pathway and it’s like I forget that process exists altogether.

This is me. How can you just “forget” something you’ve developed into a routine and done daily for a month? I do though. Shit.

I am not every ADHD person, but this could have been written by me. I had NO IDEA that you could have something be so ingrained that you don’t think about it. Even if I develop a “routine” of doing something, it is NEVER automatic. I have to put mental effort, even if small, into every task or it won’t get done.

After reading this my definition of habit would be better termed routine. I develop a routine and I try to stick to it. Also I could have a great routine and it lasts for a month or so and then it’s just, I don’t know what else to call it but ‘gone’. It’s gone. That routine is gone.

My apologies. I have so many ad blockers that I don’t see them and forget when I make recommendations.

Yup, here’s a video of her for a model interview. NSFW. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=737k83RsCfs&ab_channel=TallyValley

Yes. Here’s an NSFW video of her from before she became Scumbag Stacy.

Edit: use this link istead for fewer ads. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=737k83RsCfs&ab_channel=TallyValley