They also make filling up your gas tank an even more unbearable experience.

I was living at or below the poverty line for years before COVID. As a senior developer, I wasn’t finding any work. Then when COVID hit, I wasn’t able to keep up with the work. I was finally earning 6 figures. I was able to travel (like in a jet, legitimate travel) for the first time–just because. It was amazing. I was able to network with people and provide value for people. I felt like my career was suddenly moving!

Then around 2021-2022 all my clients abandoned me, my network ghosted me, and I was back to square one. That’s where I am today.

I’m working on having a breakthrough because someone college-educated with a GitHub profile should not be standing at food bank lines every month.

True, and thanks.

Ah, I see. Yeah, I keep forgetting that a lot of people use LinkedIn for job-searching (I mean, I kinda do too, but been active on it like 7 years without a single follow-through). I see it as a networking tool. Job-searching may be part of it, but business leaders and ultra wealthy use it to make connections and support each other (theoretically). Businesses/creators would be the target market. Maybe some job-search aspect to it at some point.

Haha, this is true. Hence why I was looking for a way to serve people.

Yeah, that’s why I was kinda wondering.

Yeah, that’s what I was hoping for. I’m a believer that money = value. If something or someone is valuable, it should be paid for and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I’m also a believer that you can operate in FOSS/Fedi-mode and still make money.

Yup, an instance would be paid, but if someone wanted to launch a service of their own they totally could…they just won’t have the upstream features and the primary support from the paid instance.

Job-seeker/employer is only a drop in the ocean of what professional networking (and LinkedIn) is about. It’s a community of businesses that all help each other collaborate and build…a way to share ideas and make new connections…at least, I think that’s what everyone wants it to be.

Nope, no verification system…complete opposite…you’d just need to pay an I don’t care who you are (I’d even take crypto like Monero). I think being on week 4 of wrestling with LinkedIn’s verification system (being in LI jail for the 3rd time!) has made me sick of it.

One thing I like about the fediverse is it’s very community-driven. If I come across a spam message on Mastodon, I’ll start to report it to the community but find 10 others who are saying the same thing and within 5 minutes the dude is out. Meanwhile LinkedIn has a draconian verification system that treats its users like toddlers, while every other week I have someone asking to take over my UpWork account (and LI doesn’t ban them).

With me it depends on quality & depth.

If I socialize with a really good friend (or a romantic interest–which hasn’t been for a while 🙁 ) every day, that invigorates me.

But if I drag myself out to even one hour long social event for a week I have to spend 8 weeks recovering. 🤣 (OK, maybe not that long, but you get the idea).

Already had one power outage, another is on the way.

I actually kinda like power outages. They’re sort of an adventure.

The only gut-punch is that I’ve been looking for work for a while now. Hoping on a miraculous break-through soon. But I had to ask for money from friends for non-perishables.

Was it ever for jobs?

Been an active user for well over 5 years and not one interaction has resulted in a job.

A bunch of people acting like they were hiring, sure.

FitnessBlender has a few “People who get bored easily” workouts. As an ADHD-er I often followed them. I still work out, but I don’t follow the videos as much.

Would Ultimate HIIT Workout for People Who Get Bored Easily - Fat Burning HIIT Cardio Workout hit the spot?–I mean, HIIT the spot?

Where in the USA Is This?

My closes distance was like 400 ft away in Alaska even though I’d never been to Alaska.

As a man (straight) I consider it my duty to pay for a date, but if the woman wants to pay or go Dutch I’m not going to raise a fuss.

I’ll usually tell her straight up I do this as well. I figure if someone isn’t comfortable with me communicating something as simple as who’s going to pay for a date, how comfortable are they going to be with me communicating about other things as well?

For me, I’ve just accepted I may not be everyone’s cup of tea. And that’s fine. That doesn’t make me any less valuable.

For me the risks are a lot higher since I’ve been looking nonstop for work (in software) for the past 2-3 years. I realize I do have a strong personality: I love to get engaged in a project and really own it. Whenever I feel a potential employer/client trying to play it “cool,” I’ll often try to engage with them more and try to provide more value for them.

I do try to temper this. But at the end of the day I realize that while most people may not want someone engaged with their team, there are some companies that are desperate for people like me. And I just need to find out who they are…it just might take a while.

Oh, no, it’s definitely not a thing you age out of!

I’ve found the ADHD rewired podcast is a pretty good podcast. The hose (whose name I forget) has ADHD himself and often has tips for adults with ADHD. Anytime I listen I think I smile and don’t feel so alone.

I was also a part of a group called CHADD some time ago (Children & Adults with ADHD). You might be able to look for a chapter in your area. I also came across a remote (non-CHADD) ADHD support group on meetup…that might be a good place to look for a group.

Thanks all for the input!